If you are trying to understand Mexican relationship culture, one thing can be confusing at first: romantic communication may look much more frequent and involved than you expect. Messages about whether someone slept well, ate lunch, or made it home can seem like monitoring. Often, they are not. They are a way of showing care and maintaining connection.
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The same is true of the phrase “un hombre que resuelve.” Literally, it describes a man who solves or handles things. But in romantic conversations, the meaning can go far beyond fixing a broken appliance.
Arturo De León Gómez, Spanish Fluency Coach at Speak Better Spanish, explained that relationship communication often focuses on accompaniment, or making your partner feel that you are present in their day.
Important: This article is based on a conversation about Mexican relationship culture and Spanish-speaking relationship communication.
Want to understand more than just the words when learning Mexican Spanish? Read Why Mexicans Ask “¿Ya Comiste?” (And What It Really Means) and discover the cultural meaning behind this common question.
Key Takeaways
- In Mexican relationship culture, frequent check-ins can communicate care rather than control.
- Questions such as ¿Dormiste bien? or ¿Ya comiste? may be emotional gestures, even when the answer is already predictable.
- “Un hombre que resuelve” generally refers to a man who takes initiative and handles problems, but the exact meaning depends on the relationship and cultural context.
- Being “resolvent” is not simply about being handy or fixing things around the house.
- Age, maturity, and the couple’s expectations can change how relationship roles are understood.
- Learning Spanish relationship vocabulary requires understanding the cultural meaning behind the words, not just translating them literally.
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What Does Mexican Relationship Culture Say About Daily Check-Ins?
In Mexican relationship culture, asking your partner about their day can be a way to show emotional presence. The question is not always about gathering new information.
Daily check-ins often mean, “I am thinking about you,” even when the person already knows the answer.
Arturo explained that questions about sleeping, eating, or daily activities can function as a form of connection.
For example:
| Spanish | English | Possible emotional meaning |
|---|---|---|
| ¿Dormiste bien? | Did you sleep well? | I care about how you are feeling |
| ¿Ya comiste? | Have you eaten yet? | I am thinking about you |
| ¿Qué haces? | What are you doing? | I want to connect with you |
| ¿Ya llegaste? | Did you get there? | I want to know you are okay |
To an English speaker, these questions may sometimes sound repetitive. If your partner asks ¿Ya comiste? every day, you may think: “You already know I usually eat lunch at noon.”
But that misses the point.
Arturo described this kind of communication as a way of accompanying someone. The emotional meaning is often more important than the information being exchanged.
This is one reason translating Spanish word for word can leave you confused. The literal question is only one layer of the conversation.
Is Asking “What Are You Doing?” Controlling in Spanish?
Not automatically.
The meaning depends heavily on the relationship, tone, and context. ¿Qué haces? can be a casual question, an affectionate check-in, or a genuine request for information.
The mistake is assuming that every question has the same social meaning in every culture.
This is similar to learning Mexican Spanish expressions. You cannot always understand an expression by translating each word individually. You have to ask: How is this phrase used between real people?
For more examples of expressions that can be confusing for Spanish learners, see our guide to Mexican Spanish expressions.
What Does “Un Hombre Que Resuelve” Mean?
“Un hombre que resuelve” generally describes a man who takes action and handles problems.
The phrase comes from the verb resolver, which means “to solve” or “to resolve.” However, in relationship conversations, the expression has a broader cultural meaning.
Arturo explained that a man who “resolves” may be someone who:
- Fixes problems at home
- Handles practical situations
- Takes initiative
- Participates in planning
- Contributes to the relationship
- Does not wait for someone else to solve everything
The important point is that “un hombre que resuelve” is not simply a synonym for “handyman.”
A man could be terrible at repairing a sink and still be considered someone who resolves if he actively looks for a solution when a problem appears.
Arturo’s explanation focused on practical involvement and taking action rather than simply having a particular personality.
Why Is “Un Hombre Que Resuelve” Hard to Translate?
Because the literal translation sounds strange in English.
You could say:
- “A man who solves things”
- “A problem-solving man”
- “A capable man”
None of these perfectly captures the phrase in every context.
The closest English interpretation depends on what the speaker means. Sometimes it refers to practical competence. Sometimes it suggests initiative. In romantic conversations, it can also describe someone who actively participates in making the relationship work.
That last point matters.
The phrase is often discussed as if it has one universal definition. It does not.
Does “Un Hombre Que Resuelve” Mean a Man Who Pays for Everything?
No. That is an overly narrow interpretation.
The phrase can be influenced by traditional gender expectations, but the conversation between Hannah and Arturo focused more on action and involvement.
For example, a woman might say she wants a man who “resuelve” because she wants someone who does not avoid problems.
That could mean:
- A broken household item gets dealt with.
- A difficult situation gets addressed.
- Plans are actually made.
- A problem in the relationship is discussed instead of ignored.
Arturo emphasized that the meaning depends on the couple.
His interpretation was that the idea of being “resolvent” changes depending on the people involved, their maturity, and their cultural background.
This is a useful reminder when learning Spanish through culture. A phrase can have a shared cultural meaning without having one rigid definition.
The Phrase Depends on Age and Maturity
Arturo specifically pointed out that age and maturity can affect how important this quality is in a relationship.
A younger couple may have completely different expectations from a couple who has been together for years.
The same phrase can also be interpreted differently depending on the person’s background.
One person may hear un hombre que resuelve and think about household responsibilities. Another may think about emotional maturity and taking initiative.
There is no single checklist that applies to every Spanish-speaking relationship.
What Does Communication Have to Do With Being “Resolvent”?
More than you might think.
A common mistake is to separate practical responsibilities from emotional communication. But in the conversation, these ideas were closely connected.
Arturo explained that a person who actively participates in a relationship is not only solving physical problems. They are also engaging with the relationship itself.
That can include planning, communicating, and responding when something needs attention.
In this context, “resuelve” can describe a pattern of involvement, not just a specific action.
For Spanish learners, this is an important cultural distinction.
You may know the verb resolver. You may even understand the phrase un hombre que resuelve grammatically. But you can still miss the social meaning if you only think about the dictionary definition.
This is one of the reasons real conversations are so valuable for Spanish learners. They show you how words are used to talk about relationships, expectations, and everyday life.
If you often understand Spanish but freeze when you need to respond, you may also find our guide on understanding Spanish but not speaking it useful.
Can Someone Be “Un Hombre Que Resuelve” in One Relationship but Not Another?
Yes, absolutely.
Arturo gave a particularly honest answer when discussing whether he considers himself un hombre que resuelve. His response was essentially that it depends on the specific situation and what the relationship requires.
That answer is more realistic than treating the phrase like a personality test.
A person may be highly capable in one area and less capable in another.
For example:
| Situation | Possible “resuelve” behavior |
| Household problem | Finds someone to repair it or fixes it |
| Relationship conflict | Addresses the issue directly |
| Planning | Takes initiative instead of waiting |
| Daily life | Helps organize practical responsibilities |
| Unexpected problem | Looks for a solution |
The key idea is response.
What does the person do when something needs attention?
Arturo’s perspective was that the label depends on context, abilities, and the particular relationship.
That is also why cultural conversations can be more useful than memorizing lists of “Mexican dating rules.” Real people are more complicated than stereotypes.
How Does This Compare With Other Mexican Relationship Expressions?
Mexican Spanish has many expressions where the literal translation does not tell you the whole story.
For example, romantic language can be affectionate, indirect, playful, or highly context-dependent.
If you are learning how to talk about relationships in Spanish, it helps to study expressions in groups rather than memorize isolated vocabulary.
Here are a few useful areas to explore:
- Affection and romantic language
Learn how expressions such as te quiero and te amo are used in different relationships with our guide to how to say “I love you” in Spanish. - Texting and daily communication
Many relationship conversations happen through messages. Spanish texting has its own vocabulary and shortcuts, including popular Spanish text slang. - Making plans
The verb quedar is particularly useful when talking about meeting people and making plans. Understanding quedar vs. quedarse can help you follow real conversations more naturally.
The bigger lesson is simple: Spanish relationship vocabulary is also culture vocabulary.
Why Literal Translations Can Make Mexican Dating Culture Confusing
If you translate everything literally, you may end up asking the wrong question.
For example:
- Why does my partner ask if I ate when they know I did?
- Why does someone say they want un hombre que resuelve?
- Why does the phrase seem to mean more than “solve”?
The answer is that language carries social expectations.
Mexican relationship culture often gives ordinary questions and phrases an emotional layer that is easy to miss in translation.
That does not mean every Mexican person communicates in the same way. It also does not mean that one culture is better than another.
It means you need to pay attention to what the communication is doing.
Is the person asking for information?
Are they expressing care?
Are they trying to stay connected?
Are they describing an expectation in a relationship?
Those questions will often help you understand the conversation better than a direct translation.
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How Can Spanish Learners Understand Relationship Culture More Naturally?
The best way is to pay attention to real examples and context.
Here are three practical habits:
1. Notice repeated questions
When you hear questions such as ¿Ya comiste? or ¿Dormiste bien?, do not immediately assume the speaker needs new information.
Ask yourself what the question communicates emotionally.
2. Learn phrases as cultural ideas
Do not memorize un hombre que resuelve as a simple vocabulary translation.
Notice how native speakers use the phrase and what qualities they associate with it.
3. Listen to conversations about real life
Romantic relationships, family, work, and daily routines reveal how Spanish actually functions.
This is one reason immersion matters. You need to hear language being used for real human purposes.
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Frequently Asked Questions About Mexican Relationship Culture
What does “un hombre que resuelve” mean?
“Un hombre que resuelve” generally refers to a man who takes initiative and handles problems or responsibilities. The exact meaning depends on the relationship, age, maturity, and cultural context.
Is “un hombre que resuelve” about money?
Not necessarily. The phrase can refer to practical problem-solving, initiative, participation, and addressing situations that need attention. Some people may connect it with traditional gender expectations, but it does not have one universal definition.
Why do Mexican partners ask if you have eaten?
Questions such as ¿Ya comiste? can be a way of showing care and maintaining connection. The speaker may already know the likely answer, but the question still communicates interest.
Is asking “What are you doing?” controlling in Mexican relationships?
Not automatically. The meaning depends on the context, tone, and relationship. ¿Qué haces? can be a casual check-in or an affectionate way to connect.
How can I understand Mexican relationship culture better?
Listen to real conversations and study Spanish expressions in context. Literal translations often miss the cultural meaning behind questions and phrases.
The Real Lesson Behind “Un Hombre Que Resuelve”
Mexican relationship culture is not a set of rules that every couple follows.
What the conversation about daily check-ins and un hombre que resuelve shows is something more useful: Spanish communication often carries meaning beyond the literal words.
A question about food may be a way of saying, “I care about you.”
A phrase about a man who “resolves” may describe initiative, practical involvement, or the expectation that someone will actively participate in a relationship.
The core lesson is to stop treating Spanish as a collection of direct translations.
To understand real Spanish, you have to pay attention to what people are communicating through their words.
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Hola, I'm Hannah from Speak Better Spanish. I'm here to help you stop overthinking Spanish and actually speak it. Okay. Today, everyone is going to finally hear from the person who's constantly confusing me with Mexican Spanish in real life. So introducing Arturo. He's from Northern Mexico. He's also one of our Spanish coaches here at Speak Better Spanish. And he says things all the time that technically translate into English, but emotionally make no sense to native English speakers. So today we're going to break down how Mexicans actually communicate in just having a little bit of a back and forth.
So we've talked a little bit about some of the relationship, like romantic relationship dynamics with Latinos in general or Mexicans specifically. I wanted to talk also about some of the phrases that Mexican or Spanish speakers might use in a relationship, especially over text, but it could be verbally as well, that might maybe not be normal for people who grew up in a different culture or with a different linguistic background. So like maybe phrases related to checking in with your partner and making sure they're okay, or phrases of affection or teasing, or making sure they got safely to their destination, or if they've eaten yet, or how did they sleep, or some of these kinds of things.
So could you share with us, Arturo, what are some phrases that you might use with your partner in a romantic relationship, and what's the meaning, like, what's the meaning behind them, not only the word meaning of like what do these words mean, but like what's the emotional meaning behind them? Sí, digo, no se me vienen así como la lista exacta a la mente, pero pues pudiera ser alguna como la, la que comentas: "¿Ya llegaste a casa?", en algún momento que las dos personas anden fuera, pues simplemente eso, ¿no?
"¿Cómo vas?" mientras estás en la reunión. ¿Qué significa? Pues bueno, ¿cómo estás? ¿Cómo te ha ido? Que depende con los ojos que se vea, ¿no? Pudiera ser que fuera de contexto se interprete como "estoy monitoreando qué estás haciendo", pero no tiene ese sentido realmente. Un sentido de "aquí estoy, cualquier cosa que necesites, ¿cómo estás?", ¿no? Entonces pudiera, pudiera ser esa alguna, alguna de ellas, obviamente agregándole, dependiendo cómo, cómo hables con tu pareja, el, el "amor", el "mi cielo", el etcétera, ¿no?
Dependiendo cómo, cómo hablen normalmente, pudiera ser esa, esa una, una… What are, yeah, that makes sense. What are some other phrases that you might use, especially over text, but it could be over conversation, throughout the day to check in with your partner and kind of establish that connection if you're not in the same place together? Pues puedes preguntar temprano, por ejemplo, en la mañana, que cómo durmió, que si ya despertó, que qué tal su noche. And what would you type in your phone? What would you type?
Pues no sé, yo pondría: "¿Qué tal, amorcito? Buenos días, ¿cómo dormiste?" o "¿Tuviste buena noche?", algo así. Y así, pues bueno, dependiendo lo que esté sucediendo en el día, puede suceder eso mismo, pero si ya desayunó, si ya comió, cómo le ha ido en el trabajo, si va a tener alguna actividad en particular, deportiva o de lo que sea, puede ir, puede suceder eso mismo, ¿no? Pero creo que el sentido importante de esto es como intentar estar al pendiente, pero no desde una óptica de estar vigilando, sino una óptica más bien como de estar acompañando, que creo que es muy diferente.
specific happening during the day, not necessarily to try to control or know what is the person doing at every moment and where are they and blah blah blah, but more so as a way of like keeping the relationship closeness even though you might be in physically different places, and showing them that you care, you remember what they're doing in their day, and you know, asking how certain things… Is that fair? Correcto. Y ojo, aquí algo importante de decir: la mayor parte de las veces tú ya sabes todas las respuestas, porque si hay como una comunicación, tú ya sabes todas las respuestas, pero creo que es parte de mantener vivo.
No por eso, aunque tú sepas que en ese momento va a X actividad, porque ya lo sabías, no por eso no vas a hacerlo. So, most of the times, you already know the answer, because you normally know where it is, because you normally know if that day it's together, or if that day it's going to the office, etc. that you care and you want to have that type of connection with the distance. Sí, yo, yo creo que es eso, y también es genuino, ¿no? El preguntar: "Oye, yo sé que tienes esto, pero ¿cómo va la cosa?", ¿no?
Porque no sabes todo, pero, pero muchas veces es eso, eso que comentas, ¿no? El decir: "Ya sé dónde está, ya sé qué estás haciendo, pero tengo interés", ¿no? Interesting. Very good. Now we're going to switch gears a little bit, but still kind of on the romantic relationship topic. So, so there has been, I guess, talk of women wanting a man what does that mean, and why would some women want un hombre que resuelve? Un hombre que resuelve, pues bueno, yo interpreto eso, pues como el término se dice, ¿no?
Resuelve, ¿no? Es como que haya un problema y pues bueno, a ver cómo se soluciona. Pero yo interpreto más en el sentido de pareja, y de pareja tal vez latina o mexicana. El que resuelve es tal vez, voy a aterrizarlo mucho, el que, pues, se necesita hacer algo de la casa, de arreglarse, pues vas y arreglas cuál es el cuadro, vas y sacas las copias de la llave porque se quedó atorada, ese tipo de cosas. Creo que así lo interpreto un poquito en pareja, en cosas medio superficiales. Y en cosas más profundas, pues bueno, es el sentarte, el solucionar, el arreglar, el platicar las cosas, el buscar cómo, ¿no?
No sé si iba por ahí el tema. Yeah, I think you pretty much captured it. I would say that I think from the female perspective, what a woman might be looking for, if she says she's looking for, would be someone who's engaged in the relationship, who shows up, that the relationship isn't just one-sided, with one person doing all of the activity planning, doing all of the, you know, talking and communicating and like seeking out the other person and putting in the effort. Like, that, that this probably female person who's looking for un hombre que resuelve is probably looking for someone who puts in an equal or similar amount of effort into the relationship, and if there's a problem, that that person doesn't just run away and say, oh well, it's not easy anymore, bye.
That they say, okay, let's, let's try to figure this out, let's see what needs to happen here, or how about I do this. So I think that's kind of, um, yeah, where it's coming from. So yeah, dating culture is a whole another thing, not to mention languages and, you know, cultures, if we come from different places in the world or had different upbringing. So there's so many nuances to it, but I think it's something that's worth mentioning. I would also say, and maybe you can tell me if you feel this is true, do you feel that a lot of women are looking for un hombre que resuelve, or that there's an expectation that a man has to resolver to be in a relationship, or would you say it kind of just depends on the people in the relationship?
Yo creo que depende, y también creo que depende mucho de la madurez de la pareja, pero también de la edad de la pareja y de la cultura. No quiero irme, yo ya soy, ya tengo mis años, pero no quiero irme de más años de los que tengo, pero creo que hoy, afortunada o desafortunadamente, como lo queramos ver, muchas cosas son un poco más superficiales. En las redes sociales muchas veces vemos el frame o el cuadro o el video de lo todo bonito, y pues la vida para llegar a eso todo bonito requiere un proceso, ¿no?
¿A qué va mi comentario? En que muchas veces, y no voy a decir solo mujeres, sino mujeres y hombres, tal vez buscan en el otro lado de la pareja una relación que te convenga monetariamente, físicamente, socialmente. Repito, no de hombres a mujeres nada más, o de mujeres a hombres, es algo mutuo. Entonces esto de un hombre o una mujer que resuelve, creo que también es a veces generacional. Interesting. That's interesting. There's so much, there's so much nuance and depth in dating. Okay, one final question before we end this video.
Would you consider yourself un hombre que resuelve? Dependiendo para quién. No, yo considero que puede ser que sí, puede ser que sí, dentro de las medidas de mis habilidades y posibilidades, pero creo que puede ser que sí. See that, guys, that Arturo is very modest, so he's not going to say, yes, I do resuelvo. He's going to say, some people might feel that way about me. Ella está, ella está cegada, está cegada por mis papeles mexicanos, porque no quiere hacer el examen. Está cegada. ¿Será? ¿Será?
And would you consider I am a woman that resuelve, in your opinion? Sí, por supuesto. Por supuesto, una mujer. Why would you say that? Porque eres una mujer muy independiente. Eres una mujer que no se le, vamos a decirlo así en términos mexicanos, no se le atora la carreta. Es decir, si hay un problema, vas, busca, resuelves y sigues adelante, ¿no? Sí, por supuesto. Did you hear that, guys? Muy bien. I think that's a perfect… Oh, yeah. We have an inside joke that whenever someone exaggerates, we say, between the two of us, we say "¿será?", and then most of the time if I say "¿será?", he usually makes this noise that kind of sounds like a cow, so then I send him the emoji of the cow.
So it's like "seda". So you can kind of imagine that playing out in your head, guys. So sit up, yeah. And so that's kind of a way of saying like, really, could it be true? Because we see there's an exaggeration, like, hmm, really? Oh, yeah. Okay, we covered a lot. I think this video is really solid, so I'll see you guys in the next one.
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So, what are some things that, to you, Arturo, feel normal in a relationship. Um, a romantic relationship that maybe English speakers or people of other cultures that didn’t grow up in Mexico might misunderstand. like it could be a cultural thing, a language thing.
Arturo: En el.
Hannah: Anything.
Arturo: Yo yo creo que la la cultura no. No quiero englobarlo o cerrarla a la cultura mexicana puede ser un poco la cultura latina. Voy a decirlo de esa forma. Por alguna razón, tenemos mucha mucha raíz de matriarcado, pero mucha raíz, también de de protectorado. ¿no? Entonces creo que se refleja en muchas acciones, como el simple hecho de ir caminando en en la calle y y y siempre buscar intercambiar para que el hombre vaya del del lado de de. De de la banqueta donde pasan los los vehículos? No, Entonces, a fin de cuentas, si analizamos, no sirve de absolutamente nada si va a haber un accidente atropellar a los 2 y listo. Pero, pero pues es una cuestión cultural que sucede no desde también, pues no sé abrir la puerta del del vehículo para que entre tu pareja, o si llegan a un lugar, ayudar con la silla, sacar la silla, meter la silla.
Hannah: Okay.
Arturo: Creo que es una cuestión, incluso tal vez ni siquiera de de caballerosidad, tal vez de de de cultura, no en el sentido. De acciones. Y también en el sentido de. Del del del escribir o de de las formas en las que le hablas a tu pareja. Tal vez para otras culturas, puede sonar incluso un poco. Exagerado, tal vez muy, muy romántico, o tal vez no, no sé qué término utilizar, pero sí no en una relación, pues fácilmente. Tú puedes decirle mi amor, mi amorcito. Querida, mi cielo, etcétera. En una misma frase, donde solamente estás preguntándole que qué va a ser? No Hola mi cielo, ¿cómo estás? ¿qué vas a hacer hoy? Mi amor. Y y. Y y es normal, no puede ser relativamente normal. Repito, como dije en el vídeo anterior, todo esto tiene que ver también. Con cuestión de cultura, pero también de grupos. No, no, no es una generalidad y no significa que todos los mexicanos o todos los latinos. Vivamos o expresamos de esta forma, pero. Viene viene muy por ahí. Me voy a meter en cosas de de de historia y de cultura que tal vez me salga un poco de de tema. Janna. Pero hay muchos estudios que esto lo lo. Lo han lo han analizado y tiene mucho que ver desde las antiguas culturas. Desde los dioses, el dios luna, el dios aire, el dios, muchos eran eran femeninos. Y después también con la cuestión de la religión que llega aquí a México o que llega, pues, bueno, cuando los españoles, que hay este sincretismo religioso o esta mezcla de cuestiones religiosas. Y. Ningún Dios iba a poder unir a ambas culturas y tuvo que entrar una mujer que en este caso, cuestión cultural. La virgen de Guadalupe fue la que unió todo Entonces tiene mucho que ver, porque son son el latino. Somos comunidades muy matriarcales. Las familias van creciendo y todo mundo va y visita la casa de la abuela. Y ahí están los tíos, los primos, todo mundo. Fallece la abuela, aunque sigue estando el abuelo. Ya no es lo mismo porque somos muy matriarcales. Tiene que estar la la abuela. La figura de la mujer es muy importante en este tipo de de de culturas. Que han sido heredadas? ¿no? Entonces también creo que mucho tiene que ver. Tiene mucho que ver. Eso que que preguntabas general. Me fui por otro lado, pero bueno.
Hannah: Interesting. Yes, interesting. I’m sure you guys who are watching this can imagine how interesting our conversations are and how many different. tracks they can take. Um, but… Kind of as a follow up question to what you said, Arturo. So let’s say that someone is in a relationship with a Spanish speaker that’s a male and maybe is Mexican or Latino. From your perspective, would you say that. The male typically opens the door and does these, like, protective types of things for the female. Because he feels that the female is weak or is lesser and needs to be protected. Or is it kind of a different motivation? How do you see it in your mind? Like, what’s the motivation? for that.
Arturo: Yo, como lo veo. Primero, lo veo con que no sucede en todos lados, pero pero pero sucede no.
Hannah: Of course.
Arturo: Y yo lo veo no tanto porque se vea. Débil a la otra parte, si no por una cuestión de de de cultura de caballerosidad, puede ser sí, tal vez un poco para para proteger inconscientemente. Pero creo que viene muy, muy heredado, mu muy heredado desde ese. Repito por lo mismo de la importancia de de de la mujer, que es para nosotros en la cultura. Pongo otro ejemplo. Tú puedes ir por la calle y te pueden decir, las groserías que sean. Pero si te dicen una referente a tu mamá. Ahí. Sí, el mundo se paraliza y ni te la están diciendo a ti, se la están diciendo a tu mamá.
Hannah: Ha ha! Aha.
Arturo: Entonces el ahí sí explota, ¿no? Entonces viene muy cultural.
Hannah: Ha! That’s true. Aha. So I have two points on that. The first one would be that I think my interpretation. of. When males do these caballerosidad type of activities or behaviors.
Arturo: Mhm.
Hannah: Which, like you said, not everyone does. um… That it’s maybe not from a point of inequality of I am more, you are less. you are not able to so therefore I am doing it’s maybe more of like, I respect you and I care about you. And this is how I’m demonstrating that to you. Would you say that’s.
Arturo: Sí. Yo creo que.
Hannah: more or less accurate.
Arturo: Yo creo. Sí. Yo creo que va más por ese sentido que otra cosa importante. Ahora, últimamente. Con toda la cuestión de de de los derechos y y del feminismo y demás. Yo no quiero decir a favor en contra, pero creo que este tipo de acciones ha ido haciendo que se disminuya porque, pues, bueno, desde el lado del hombre, ahora ya te lo preguntas antes, no te lo preguntabas. Tal vez lo hacías como tú Lo comentas Hannah: de pues? Bueno, porque te respeto porque es mi forma de expresarlo.
Hannah: Ha ha!
Arturo: Y ahora posiblemente ya dices no, porque pues tal vez la otra persona va a pensar que le estoy minimizando o va a pensar que micromachismos o va a pensar que. Entonces los tiempos van cambiando. Tal vez tal vez mi generación sea de las últimas. Que vamos a tener este tipo de de actitudes? No lo sé. Y tampoco estoy diciendo que una cosa esté bien y la otra esté mal, ¿verdad? Tampoco.
Hannah: Uh-huh, interesting. Yeah, it just. commenting on observations overall.
Arturo: ¿correcto?
Hannah: Aha! And as a final follow-up question, kind of related to what you were mentioning about the matriarchal societies and. like, insults, and what types of insults are the most, like, the strongest or the most offensive. um… You, from your perspective as a Mexican, and you can say it on the channel, um, what is the most. Horrible, offensive, strongest insult that someone could possibly say to you.
Arturo: No tengo ni que pensarlo. Chinga, Tu madre es el el el. Creo que si hacemos una encuesta así como 100 mexicanos dijeron como estos programas de encuestas.
Hannah: Aha!
Arturo: El 90 por 100 de la gente va a decir esa, y, repito, es muy cultural. Ni siquiera te están ofendiendo a ti. Pero pero.
Hannah: Aha!
Arturo: Pero culturalmente.
Hannah: And they might not even know your mom, they might not know anything about her, it’s just a general phrase of, like.
Arturo: ¿correcto? ¿correcto?
Hannah: Hmm, your mom.
Arturo: ¿correcto?
Hannah: Aha, and.
Arturo: ¿correcto?
Hannah: Isn’t it true that there’s a certain way of honking your horn. That means that expression. In Mexico.
Arturo: Sí. Correcto. ¿correcto? ¿correcto?
Hannah: Can you make the sound of what that would sound like? So someone would know.
Arturo: Sí, correcto. Suena como. Pi. Pi. Pi. Pi. Pi. Que traducido a a al lenguaje. Sería chinga. Tu madre ajá.
Hannah: And then what’s the response if someone else wants to say?
Arturo: Entonces.
Hannah: To you, too.
Arturo: Ahh: Bueno, la tuya. O sea, también hay respuesta. Chinga, la tuya.
Hannah: with the. And how does that sound with the beeps?
Arturo: Sí. Ti o igual Ti Ti Ti Ti Ti se responde igual.
Hannah: So there you have it, guys, some hidden Mexican expressions, even with the.
Arturo: Sí, Sí, Sí, Sí, Sí, Sí. Mhm.
Hannah: Car honking, it could be the most possibly offensive expression. So we took a little side turn there, but I think it was really interesting. really interesting conversation that. Is the kind of thing that. People might be wondering about if they’re in a relationship with a Spanish speaker, whether the Spanish speaker, well, we don’t know what’s happening in the relationship, right, but you could have it on both sides, whether someone is opening the door and doing these acts for you, and there might be certain expectations or certain ideas of why this is happening. Or whether you’re the one who’s opening the door to these, or maybe both of you are. and what that means for you and your relationship. I mean, that’s a conversation to be had within. within the couple, um, but I think it’s really interesting to reflect on, like, why these things happen, and what we see in general, and in general. What’s the attitude about that and why these behaviors happen? Any final comments on this topic before we close out our video?
Arturo: Todo perfecto.
Hannah: I think that was that was good sharing a lot of good insights. Excellent. All right. Great work. So I will see you in the next video.
Arturo: Qué?
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